Battling a chronic illness can suck big time. That’s why it is so important to find a way to pull yourself out of that spoonie slump. What do you do to make yourself feel better? How do you show self love & self care? I’ve found a few different ways to make myself feel more confident, more beautiful and happier – these include things such as family time, getting my nails done, eyelash extensions, massages, time outdoors etc. Whilst these are great, I wanted to share a different perspective with you all, so I’ve chatted to a few fellow sufferers and asked them to share their coping methods with me. I’ve learnt a lot from these wonderful ladies & I’ve started implementing some of their happy hobbies into my own life – and I’m loving it. Sometime’s it’s great to hear what other women use as tools to cope with chronic illness – you may find exactly what you’ve been looking for…
The beautiful Jess @endometriosis_australia, is lucky to have parents who help out with her gorgeous daughter. She’s all about watching movies, drinking cups of tea and sitting on the couch with her hot water bottle to rest. Jess has been through a lot, and she is a very strong, brave woman – if you haven’t checked out her page you definitely should. Her story is inspiring. We both wish that there was a magical cure to help us feel ‘normal’.
Kelsey @endostrong loves doing girly things like painting her nails, which always cheers her up. She also loves the outdoors & going for small hikes. She told me “I spend a lot of time at the beach too which a a great pain day activity because literally you can just sit”. Amen sister! I need to go to the beach more often – staying indoors when I’m in pain is bad for my state of mind, so it’s great to get outside in the fresh air.
Autumn @theendotwins is big on make up (and she’s damn good at it). I can totally relate to that! I’m a professional makeup artist, so I love painting my own face & my clients. Fela mentioned that she’s “really big on self care like face masks and bubble baths! Lighting candles and pampering” – sounds like a pretty amazing way to uplift your spirits to me! Sometimes, I find that in the middle of a pain flare, I take one look at the bath and think it’s too much effort – I need to take Fela’s advice and force myself to run that bath and pamper myself… my body & mind will thank me for it afterwards – and yours will too!
Amee Leigh @ameeleighatkins sum’s up self care perfectly – “definitely retail therapy ‘treat yo’self”. YAS GURL. Amee also mentioned something that I do myself (as I work part-time in childcare); “I try to surround myself with my friends babies and soak up all their inhibited joy as they’re so oblivious to life, I can’t not smile around them and be happy around them.”
Bec @becsjourney_ has her methods sorted. Her “me days” or “me afternoons”, as she calls them, involve; heading into the city for a day of shopping, walking and exploring in the fresh air, going to the movies, going out for lunch. She said she really takes the time to appreciate these good health days, as it reminds her that she is ‘normal’. Bec also said “I love to put on some good music and dance around my house, I think it’s the feeling of being able to move and not be curled up in bed that’s really encouraging for my body”.
Annie @allaboutannieblog emphasises the importance of staying positive throughout her health journey. If you haven’t checked out her blog already, you definitely should (it’s one of my favourite’s). A few of the way’s Annie makes herself feel better include; “giving myself pep talks, binge watching t.v. series, getting my nails done by my bestie – she is SO talented (@darlingbeautyco), going to the gym (releasing those endorphins yo!), spending quality time with my family (my nephew Quincy is a quick fire way to cheer me up), putting on a nice outfit and doing my hair, talking to my partner Kodi (he always knows what to say).
Lisa-Maria @findloveyourbody said “I jump into my black bathing costume (because I like to show self love) and enjoy some “me time” in the form of yoga”.
I just LOVED her response. As most of you have probably noticed by now – I’m all about loving yourself and being confident. If there’s anything you girls take away from this blog post, please take some self love! Right now, muster up all the strength you have and do something that makes you feel beautiful. Take a selfie. Go for a walk. Have a bath. Tell yourself how amazing you are. Keep saying it until you believe it. Self love takes time & practice, but it is so important, especially when battling a disease that makes you feel so crappy on the inside. You need to love yourself – because you are worthy, valuable, beautiful and strong. It takes a strong person to battle a chronic illness everyday, so give yourself the credit you deserve.
Let me know what you do for self care; what do you do to help yourself feel better when battling a chronic illness? Leave a comment below, I’d love to hear from you guys.
P.S. If you have read to the end; firstly, thank you. Secondly, I want you to actually take a selfie, send it to me via private message and tell me at least one thing you love about yourself and a little about yourself as well (if you feel comfortable sharing). Self love starts now ladies! If you take the time to do this, I will send back a list of some things I see in you that I find beautiful – sometime’s it’s great to have a new perspective on yourself. And hopefully this little self love exercise will brighten up your heart. If you would like to take part, my Instagram is @nikkolaadams and Facebook is Nikkola Adams – Chronically Glam: Life With An Invisible Illness (@NikkolaAdamsBlog)
Images (of myself): Krystal Atkins Photography